I’ve been on plenty first dates. Too many to count. The great guys plan out the first date. The less memorable guys say, “I don’t know. What do you want to do? I don’t know what you like.” Then the tasks me with finding a place for us to go. That irks me most about first dates. If a man is asking me on a date, he should plan the first date. When he doesn’t plan the first date, I already think he’s lazy and he doesn’t care enough to take the time to figure out where to take us.
You don’t know what she likes? I get it, but this is also why you have a few conversations prior to the date and get a feel for the things that you both have in common and then you can make your decision from there. Even just planning the first location and then seeing where the night takes you, is more thoughtful than putting the date planning into the other person’s lap.
Here’s a few tips on some things to remember for first dates:
Some ladies may like it, but I hate going to the movies for a first date. I think it’s a terrible idea. You probably just met this person or this is your first interaction alone with them. Why are you sitting alone in the dark with them? You should be talking and getting to know each other. I can’t talk to you in the dark watching a screen while reaching for the popcorn and drinking my blue raspberry slurpee.
I always suggest hands on activities like Six Flags, Dave N Busters and Top Golf. A little competition is always fun and you’re up, moving around, talking, and you’re not just stationary the whole time.
But Dave N Buster’s, Top Golf, and Six Flags can get pricey! What if I don’t want to spend that much money on her for the first date?
If you’re not sure how much money you want to spend on this girl for the first date, meet at bar, during happy hour. There’s always a happy hour special so the beverages and food won’t be full price. If your date doesn’t go well, you can end it without it being awkward because happy hour will end by 7pm and that’s your easy way out. If happy hour goes well, you can keep the party going and go to another spot.
If you’re trying to come across like you really planned out this first date, there’s always the envelope system.
Choose 3 different dates, and label each envelopes 1, 2, and 3. When you pick up your date, let her know she has 3 options for dates, but she can only open one envelope. Whatever, she opens, that’s what you’ll do that evening. If you get a second date, the next date you take her on, she can choose one of other remaining envelopes and so forth. The mystery and the thought alone will get you cool points at minimum.
I hope this was helpful. I’m certainly not a dating guru, but I am pretty knowledgable on what has made me want to see a guy again for a second date and what has made me change his name in my phone to DO NOT ANSWER.
What are your thoughts? Any suggestion for first date ideas? Let me know in the comments section below!